I promise this won't be as long as Charles Dickens' tale, but will probably be just as dramatic.
Do you remember me telling you about my friend Funman and his daughter Li-Li? Well, for the past three days I baby-sat Li-Li for Funman while he was at work. I thought it would be a fun time for Mikah, Li-Li, and me and we'd end this three day stretch with some funny stories and cute moments. There were cute moments, but also a whole lot of frustration.
Don't get me wrong, I loved having Li-Li. The problem I think though is that both Li-Li and Mikah are the only child of their immediate family. Besides the fact that they are both in the toddler stage and are learning to share and play with others. Mikah is associating emotional attachments to his toys and Li-Li is wanting to experience everything all at once so it's kind of like a toddler-nado when those two want the same toy.
God forbid Li-Li wants to sit on my lap,or even touch me, or even stand next to me. I can appreciate that Mikah thinks I'm a precious stone (Gollum much?) but wow. Hitting and pushing is not how I need to be protected. Li-Li also feels that whenever she's so much as poked that she needs to fall to the floor in anguish.
Don't get me wrong, I loved having Li-Li. The problem I think though is that both Li-Li and Mikah are the only child of their immediate family. Besides the fact that they are both in the toddler stage and are learning to share and play with others. Mikah is associating emotional attachments to his toys and Li-Li is wanting to experience everything all at once so it's kind of like a toddler-nado when those two want the same toy.
God forbid Li-Li wants to sit on my lap,or even touch me, or even stand next to me. I can appreciate that Mikah thinks I'm a precious stone (Gollum much?) but wow. Hitting and pushing is not how I need to be protected. Li-Li also feels that whenever she's so much as poked that she needs to fall to the floor in anguish.
"Oooh, Mikah touched my arm!"
One funny thing Mikah picked up, which is also bad, is that he learned how to annoy Li-Li. Whenever their playing becomes highly energized and rambunctious, Mikah will scream/ squeal at the top of his lungs and laugh at Li-Li's discomfort and pleas for him to stop. He makes a game out of it because of Li-Li dramatically stomping and screaming, "Mikah! No! Stop!" Li-Li knows that Mikah is ticklish though, so all is well.
The cutest moments of all, though, is definitely when I catch them playing nicely to one another and they hug and kiss. I caught them in Mikah's bed yesterday rolling around and trading kisses between giggles. So adorable. It's those little things that makes my day better. When they tell each other "love you", when Mikah apologizes with a kiss, or when Li-Li says Mikah is her baby.
Through out these past few days I've really come to terms with waiting to have another child. I mean, I know it would be different if I had two kids because Mikah would gradually learn to share me with another child and he and that other child would be used to each other (somewhat). It sometimes makes me think of how it could have/ would have been if Ein was still alive. He was only 8 months younger than Li-Li. I would have been busy, that's for sure. Still, I can at least wait until Mikah is in school and not competing for my attention. Until then, Li-Li can get me ready.
The cutest moments of all, though, is definitely when I catch them playing nicely to one another and they hug and kiss. I caught them in Mikah's bed yesterday rolling around and trading kisses between giggles. So adorable. It's those little things that makes my day better. When they tell each other "love you", when Mikah apologizes with a kiss, or when Li-Li says Mikah is her baby.
Through out these past few days I've really come to terms with waiting to have another child. I mean, I know it would be different if I had two kids because Mikah would gradually learn to share me with another child and he and that other child would be used to each other (somewhat). It sometimes makes me think of how it could have/ would have been if Ein was still alive. He was only 8 months younger than Li-Li. I would have been busy, that's for sure. Still, I can at least wait until Mikah is in school and not competing for my attention. Until then, Li-Li can get me ready.
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